Let’s be honest. Homeschool struggles are real. In one way, shape, or form, all homeschoolers experience a struggle.
Homeschooling places physical, mental, and psychological demands upon ourselves and our families. Although these struggles exist, homeschoolers often feel like they must hide their problems.
You chose this life, right? (And, if not, at least you are doing what is best for your family.) You might feel the need to be perfect. You put pressure on yourself to do everything, be everything. When things don’t happen the way you think they should (likely the usually never do), you experience a state of intense discomfort that interferes with your functioning.
This post in the first of a series that will be taking an honest look at common homeschool struggles shared by many members of our Rock Your Homeschool community. We will look at who, what, when, where, why, and how homeschoolers struggle. My hope is that with this series (and a few additional resources) that no stone will be left unturned in helping homeschoolers accept, deal with, and overcome their homeschool struggles.
What are Homeschool Struggles?
Homeschoolers often operate under preconceived notions that we “should” be happy or perfect or have it all together. We are blessed with the ability to be at home with our children. We are present to witness all the beautiful learning moments-those “aha” moments that light up the faces of our kids. We have a say in what and how our children are learning. We don’t have worries that public school parents face, like violence or bullying.
We do, however, have a lot on our plates. We are responsible for the education of our children, a massive responsibility for the benefit of our family. In addition to this responsibility, we have the typical tasks of home management, appointments, special events, and extracurricular activities.
To add fuel to the fire, many homeschoolers may not have support from family and friends. We are often challenged by others with a lot of questioning about our children’s well-being, like socialization and academic preparedness. We may have financial concerns due to living on a single income and paying for curriculum. We may feel alone, overwhelmed, and scared.
When we place all of these conditions into a pot and stir them up, we often end up with a stew of Homeschool Struggles.
You Are Not Alone!
No one is perfect. We are human beings with everyday cares and concerns that can morph into significant struggles. Our struggles (common to non-homeschoolers as well) often present as:
- Chronic Illness
- Lack of Organization
As homeschoolers, however, these issues become unique to our situation. These common struggles can be intensified with the extra responsibilities of homeschooling.
The main problem: Many homeschoolers don’t feel comfortable admitting that they are trying to deal with these types of struggles. They don’t want to admit that they aren’t perfect. Or they feel like they will no longer be able to homeschool their kids if anyone finds out. Or others will judge them and make them feel even more like they aren’t enough. Or “I should just be able to deal with this! Everyone else is fine! Why can’t I get my act together?” Sound familiar?
Truth bomb: Every single homeschooler that I know and have chatted with deals with some type of struggle. I have yet to meet any homeschooler (or human being, for that matter!) that doesn’t struggle with something. Whether it is clinical and requires professional care or mild and can be remedied with DIY self-help, homeschool moms have struggles. And that’s okay. It’s part of the human condition. And it can lead to growth and positive change.
Why Talking About & Dealing with Homeschool Struggles Is Important
First, I believe it is important to break the stigma of homeschool struggles. We have to talk about it to help ourselves acknowledge, understand, and overcome.
It’s like in Harry Potter. Witches and wizards were terrified of saying the name “Voldemort”. Frantic whispers of “He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named” could often be heard in the wizarding world. There was a misconceived notion that saying the word would add power to the name and, therefore, the evil wizard.
Hogsmeade! (I was going to say Hogwash but we’ll stick with a Harry Potter theme here.)
In the homeschooling world, frantic whispers of struggles can often be heard. “Overwhelm”, “anxious”, and “depressed” are omitted because we can’t let others know of our struggles. Won’t that just add to their powers? Isn’t it better to just walk around and act like nothing is wrong, while our homeschool life is miserable?
Ignoring the problem won’t make it go away. Sure, the old advice of “fake it ’til you make it” can help in certain situations. But, only for so long if nothing substantial is done to address and solve the underlying problems.
It’s time that we let go of the fears of homeschool struggles. It’s time that we stand together as a homeschool community and build each other up with our own unique strengths.
The forces of good always defeat evil, right? Do those good forces do it on their own? No! They combine powers to wipe out all that is negative and bad.
We Shall Overcome Homeschool Struggles
With the power of positive thinking strategies, authenticity, and community, we shall overcome homeschool struggles.
Hearing that you are not alone in your struggle can be therapeutic. You can make connections and start to work on an effective solution.
You are not alone in this journey of homeschooling. You do not have to continue to feel frazzled, scared, or exhausted. You do not need to feel like you have no idea what to do, with your mind drawing a blank as to what to do next.
It is my passion to help homeschool moms discover their inner strengths and powers. I will be addressing each of these topics right here on Rock Your Homeschool. If you believe that you or friends could benefit from these tips and resources, add your name and email in the sign-up box below (and share this post with a friend!). Also, please join us in our Rock Your Homeschool! Facebook group for like-minded ladies who support and encourage each other on our homeschool journeys.
Why am I so passionate about helping other homeschool moms? It’s kind of like the Force in Star Wars. When we work together and create effective and fun homeschools for all to enjoy, we are building up a powerful, positive force. (And now you can definitely see the sci-fi nerd in me!)
I want you to enjoy your homeschool experience. I am very familiar with how these homeschool struggles can interfere with your homeschool happiness. It doesn’t have to be that way.
I know you have all that it takes to relax, have fun, and connect with your kids. I have discovered these things in myself. And I know you have them, too.
Because you are enough.